My Youngest Client Yet
Talk about a personally scary time for me. I understand how much harder it is for me to work with someone so young. I was counseling a 15 year old boy who has questions about his sexual orientation. The topic was not the thing that threw me for a whirl, but his age. This was my first time talking with someone so young. For the start, his age was blocking me from going forward. I thought how great it is that he is seeking help. Then I would remind myself that his mother kind of put him up to it. I did not know how much of a desire he had to be there talking with me. He was very open and honest with what he was going through.
After God calmed me down I was able to really listen to what the guy was saying. His problem is real, because he feels that he has one. But it is in the beginning stages and can turn into something that can cause him years of grief. From the books I have read, I know that he only needs to know the truth about who God has made him to be. He needs to find his real self by being affirmed in his masculinity. As the client shared his story with me, I would clearly see that in his short life that he has not been affirmed in any area of his life. The biggest challenge is that his life as been monotone. He has no highs and no lows. How does one receive life when one has never known it?
We spend time praying and talking about his life. He was very open, but he was not able to express his feelings. He is highly intelligent, he is well mannered, he is highly respected, but he is as cooled as ice. His emotions are frozen. I could say that they were never developed. I feel that this was major block in our time together. He was able to do some great things during our session like honestly speak about what is going on in his mind. I believe that he felt accepted by me as he was sharing, and I know that this is very important.We were not able to really attack the problem. I found that we were going around in circles. I could see some threads that could lead to the root of his problem of why he feels like he is homosexual. We were able to notice two events that need farther investigation. I asked him to continue to reflect on these two events with God to see what he wants to say to you about them. With that, I stopped our session, because I felt that it was enough for our first time. My hope is that I will be able to meet with him at less two more time before I leave to go back to Kiev. I pray that it will happen, because I know that God has not gotten to the heart of the predicament with him

